Nothing could be more foreign to the tribe I studied and lived among than giving up on their own personal upkeep—the zealous, dedicated striving to be a particular kind of fabulous, fit, and chic Manhattan Geisha with children. In fact, the extremely successful men of the Upper East Side and the Hamptons always seemed a little distracted and bored, because they were—by the endless smorgasbord of stunning women Wives want sex tonight Del Aire around them, all the time, preening and primping for Wivves benefit.
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Utterly unlike geishas, the women I studied gave the impression that they were somehow above things like flirting. Like geishas, however, they fonight above sex.
Sure, they had babies, so we knew they had had sex. But their bodies, put through such rigorous paces, tended to so meticulously, turned out so carefully, were purified and not for earthly pursuits.
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This, I learned, was their code.
They strove equally to be beautiful for the men who were not there and for the women who were. They did it to bond with their fellow tribe members, but also to measure up to, and to take the measure of, Wivds, day by day, evening by evening, event by event, class by class.
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It belonged to the tribe, too.
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